For many people, emotional blackmail is a way of relating in their day-to-day lives. In general, it consists of the manipulation of other people to obtain their own benefit. Although it can occur in a specific context as a way to achieve something, it is often part of a dysfunctional communication pattern.
In a society like ours, we can all be emotional blackmailers. It is even possible that we have had this behavior on more than one occasion without even realizing it, and not for that reason we have become manipulative and perverse people.
At first, it seems like an easy way to change the other’s mindset. However, it is an inappropriate way of interacting, and whoever exercises it shows that they have few communicative and emotional resources.
The different roles in emotional blackmail
When there is a continuous emotional blackmail, there are two different subjects: the blackmailer and the blackmailed. And although all people are different, those who exercise this behavior most vehemently tend to share a series of characteristics such as:
They need to control others and everything must be done as they want.
They cause a deep sense of guilt in the other person.
They use each other’s weaknesses to take advantage of the situation.
They promote that the relationship with the other person is based on need.
They are afraid of abandonment and losing control.
Their relationship with others is not equal to equal, but is unbalanced and they exert a power over the other.
They have been acting in the same way for many years, often learning this communicative pattern in childhood.
They seek recognition and attention through anger or crying.
On many occasions, they “buy” the other through gifts and whims to ensure that they do not get away from them.
They pressure, coerce, threaten and may even use violence to make what they want to happen.
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