Emotional Instability Or Why Not Every Day Is The Same

Emotional instability are those  ups and downs that a person can suffer in their mood in a short period of time.

It is quite common that it is not known what has caused this variation, that sudden sadness, that joy or that disinterest.

Now, it is important to specify something essential first: there are different types of emotional instability.

There is, without a doubt, that borderline personality disorder where the ups and downs are chaotic and disruptive. A complex neurosis may even appear for which adequate psychological treatment is necessary.

In our article we want to focus on the other extreme, on that more specific and less intense emotional instability that we have all experienced on occasion.

It is not a clinical problem, but times when it seems that the sun is covering and shadows appear longer than ever. Something has changed inside us without knowing why.

Here we explain what it may be due to.

Emotional instability: causes that usually determine it

There are people who are characterized by always being unstable. There are times when everything seems to be going well and times when each completed project collapses because they have changed their minds.

These types of profiles are usually very conflictive. It is difficult for us to trust them, they are usually difficult to deal with. Also, living together is like riding a roller coaster. It seems that everything is ups and downs.

Now, leaving personality profiles and clinical problems aside, let’s now see why we ourselves, in certain seasons, can also experience it.

Low self-esteem

We have all gone through times as complex as they are delicate. Sometimes, a somewhat turbulent relationship results in emotional dependence.

The person who is very attached to his partner because he feels a victim may develop low self-esteem. It is very common, therefore, that in these states there is great emotional instability.

• There will be days when we tell ourselves that we adore our partners. However, there will be others in which we feel anger and frustration because we are simply unhappy.

The Covert Depression

As specialists explain to us, today there are many people, especially men, who go through depression without being able to be diagnosed.

These people often have a much harder time opening up and asking for help. For this reason, their abysses, their problems suffer in silence.

Covert depression usually manifests itself through the following symptoms:

• Emotional instability

• Bad mood
• Apathy
• Tiredness
• Negative and fatalistic thoughts

Day-to-day stress

This is undoubtedly the most common cause of emotional instability. External pressure and the way we handle these stressful situations undoubtedly influence our state of mind.

There will be days when “we can do it all.” However, there will be times when “everything surpasses us.”

Hormonal changes

The premenstrual syndrome usually generates some other emotional change. However, it must be made clear that these variations in our mood only affect about 10% of women more intensely.

Genetic inheritance

Today we already have more data about our brain chemistry. We know that genetics play an important role in the appearance of this problem.

• Alterations have been found in the levels of certain neurotransmitters, such as serotonin. This hormone is involved in the regulation of moods and emotions.
• In these cases, and always when our emotional instability is very intense and affects our quality of life, it is necessary that we receive adequate treatment.

How to cope with emotional instability

Understand above all that we all have good days and bad days. Even more, assume that it is normal that throughout the day you experience small decays and that you soon recover.

People are not robots. We are emotional minds that react in different ways to stimuli depending on the moment.

There will be days when we are more worried, more susceptible. And then there will be moments when an unexpected motivation embraces us and we are capable of everything.

Our brain will always try to protect us in these more specific cases. So you can put these strategies into practice to try to help him:

• Cool your mind, block negativity, and exercise your body. Go for a walk, ride a bike, paint mandalas, walk by the sea or in a forest, etc.
• Talk to yourself. Take care of your needs, understand what grips your mind.
• Be open to someone who can understand you, explain what you feel and share a moment of tranquility with that person. It can be very cathartic.